When was the last time you tried something new?
– Last month, learning the Danish language.
Do you think crying is a form of strength or weakness?
– Strength, as letting go of what is hurting us and a sign to move on from it as best we can.
Are you living or existing?
– I try to ensure I live in the moment but some days feel like it is existing by joining the dots going from day to night.
Are you holding on to something you need to let go of?
– Yes, some personal stuff that still hurts from my past and impacts on the present.
How old would you be if you didn’t know how you are?
– Mid-70s, feel I have seen the world many times over and so many repeats but yet still room for surprises too.
What makes you smile?
– Seeing a message from one of my closest friends or my niece Isabella’s excitement at life without the jadeness we gain with age.
When was the last time you listened to the sound of your own breathing?
– The other day when sat watching autumn leaves fall around me.
What has life taught you recently?
– Some people will always judge others by their standards or how they think life should be lived, best not give them your oxygen or time.
Can you describe your life in six words?
– A cryptic maze with false paths.
If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make mistakes?
– As in admitting we were wrong or caused an error leaves us feeling exposed and vulnerable, thus open to pain and hurt.
If life is short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t?
– We dwell too much on negativity and find positivity really hard, but should focus on we do have or are not would like or had.
Is it more important to love or to be loved?
– Both, as being loved shows us what love is and we should share that with those we feel are important in our lives (not just on anniversaries and special occasions).
What act of kindness were you were once shown that you will never forget?
– My closest friends by believing in me and encouraging me when I was not able to do so for myself.
What is your goal for the next six months?
– Find the middle of the maze.
If you could live one day of life over again, what day would you choose?
– Hard to single out one day as changing things would change who I am now but days filled with good memories I would like to keep being special for their uniqueness.
Climb to the top of the mountain and giving praise when it warranted. Remember that we are all important, it does not matter who we know but how we are treat others. Only we walk the path that belongs to us, but embrace those that make that journey easier and those that mean us harm follow our senses to limit their damage.
Dare to fly and to dream, for the impossible is not what it may seem, we’re only limited by our own imaginations. Embracing who we are now not who we were or like to be, as well as what we have not what we had or would like. Remove worry, fear, and hate, live life and love it as it today, for tomorrow is but a whisper and never a promise.
Nine lessons I have learnt in life:
1. Love – self-compassion and being gentle with ourselves when things are rough and/or black, letting go of self-criticism.
2. Kindness – random acts of kindness by others can lift our spirits, so why not be the giver rather than wait to be a receiver.
3. Resilience – when life knocks us down, don’t be out for the count, instead learn to adapt or spring back by from the punch.
4. Hope – one of the greatest gifts we can give another and helps us move on from the obstacles that block our paths.
5. Courage – not only an absence of fear but to be able face problems head, trying something different or new.
6. Mindfulness – being aware of the present moment, who and where we are now not who were or maybe in the dreamy future.
7. Gratitude – little things are like sweets in a jar mean far more than one giant bar of chocolate as can appreciate alone or in all.
8. Support – be it friends and/or family, they are keys to our growth as their love waters, enriches and strengthens roots.
9. Individuality – we all contribute to this world in unique and special ways, each one of us is a superhero with superpowers big and small.
Kindness is something we usually instinctively know – when others give it to us it is met with a smile and when they do not we notice its absence. We often try our best to be kind as we can to our fellow human beings, but when someone is unkind to us the outrage we feel echoes throughout our body like an echo in a canyon. Continued unkindness is like a pinball bouncing around the canyon following the route of the echo.
Making someone else’s life unpleasant as we want to hurt them as feel they have something we should have or doing something we wish we could leaves a deepened tone in our shadow and bitter taste in our words. Making up lies to justify the actions makes our eyes turn darker and darker as no longer see the light and the soul’s tears become covered in increasing thick layers, till it can no longer be seen or even felt.
Real kindness does not require us to be selfless, doing so because we want to and/or we kind is truly beautiful. It costs nothing. In some ways it is a dance between our needs and wants with those of another. This world can a very cruel and dark place, so why do we not shine a torch of light that is kindness? Enough hurting and hunting for gain, for in the end would we like it if someone was doing it to us?